The Value of Silence

By Joe Marzo

The Lesson

Silence can be uncomfortable, but it is rarely empty. In silence, we hear things we would otherwise miss. It gives us the ability to consider our own thoughts, our emotions, and even the truth behind what others say. Most people rush to fill silence with words, as if quiet makes them weaker. In reality, knowing when not to speak can be an incrediblt valuable skill.

Silence teaches patience. It gives space for reflection. It prevents us from saying things we can’t take back. And sometimes, silence speaks louder than any argument. It can carry respect, restraint, or even defiance. Words may be powerful, but silence is where wisdom often lives.

My Story

I’ve always been a quiet person. Speaking less comes naturally to me, and over time I realized it can be a strength. It allows you the ability to analzye a situation while keeping your opinions to yourself.

When I became a coach, that same mindset showed up on the mat. While some coaches shout instructions and fill the air with noise, I learned to stay calm and stoic. It’s not to say I don’t occasionally shout myself hoarse during a tough match, but I found it was generally the best policy to approach things with composure.

That expectation extended to my wrestlers as well. Even when defeating a rival or a hated opponent, I always made sure they shook hands and showed respect. Victory without humility means very little, and silence — choosing not to gloat or boast — often speaks louder than any celebration. Show respect even when the opponent may not deseve it.

Silence can serve you well as a leader or even in basic social situations. It keeps me from saying things I might regret in the heat of the moment, and it makes me more thoughtful about the words I do choose to use.

When you do speak, others tend to respect what you say as they know you would not speak up for no reason. Because you don’t waste words. That restraint doesn’t make you passive — it makes you intentional. And over the years, it’s taught me that sometimes the quietest voice in the room can carry the most weight.

Closing Quotes

“Silence is a source of great strength.” — Lao Tzu

“Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak and remove all doubt.” — Abraham Lincoln